A Dirt-Free Little Secret about Sex
[The following is an excerpt from TOP10 Marriage Tips for Smart Singes Part 3: The Two Makes & Two Lets. AVAILABLE NOW RIGHT HERE! Check out the entire series here.]
Believe it or not, Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith are just the sort of gifts God had in mind for marriage to give us. If you’re pretty certain you’re not interested in such things, do yourself a favor and scratch marriage off your list of things to do. You may believe you still want marriage for the guilt-free, fun, passionate sex, but marriage is much more about sacrifice and selflessness than sex. I know that might sound like a bummer, but it’s not.
I’m going to let you in on a dirt-free little secret about sex. Sex is more about oneness than it is orgasm. It’s more about the relationship than the experience. That means if you’re connected on more levels, it’s only going to make the sexual connection all the more powerful. Indeed, after only seventeen years of marriage, the love my wife and I make is richer and more precious (and yes more fun and passionate) because of the number of times we’ve sacrificed for each other and our children.
Since sacrificial commitment is the point of marriage and guilt-free sex the subsequent gift, all the sex in the world cannot compensate for the sacrifice marriage requires. Most who marry believing sex is the point of marriage, with commitment the subsequent gift, wind up cursing God and divorcing. And of those who hang in there, most feel like cursing God and dying.
Honestly, have you seen marriage as being more about sacrificial commitment or guilt-free sex? How has your dating life reflected this reality?
[This was an excerpt from TOP10 Marriage Tips for Smart Singes Part 3: The Two Makes & Two Lets. AVAILABLE NOW RIGHT HERE! Check out the entire series here.]
Believe it or not, Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith are just the sort of gifts God had in mind for marriage to give us. If you’re pretty certain you’re not interested in such things, do yourself a favor and scratch marriage off your list of things to do. You may believe you still want marriage for the guilt-free, fun, passionate sex, but marriage is much more about sacrifice and selflessness than sex. I know that might sound like a bummer, but it’s not.
I’m going to let you in on a dirt-free little secret about sex. Sex is more about oneness than it is orgasm. It’s more about the relationship than the experience. That means if you’re connected on more levels, it’s only going to make the sexual connection all the more powerful. Indeed, after only seventeen years of marriage, the love my wife and I make is richer and more precious (and yes more fun and passionate) because of the number of times we’ve sacrificed for each other and our children.
Since sacrificial commitment is the point of marriage and guilt-free sex the subsequent gift, all the sex in the world cannot compensate for the sacrifice marriage requires. Most who marry believing sex is the point of marriage, with commitment the subsequent gift, wind up cursing God and divorcing. And of those who hang in there, most feel like cursing God and dying.
Honestly, have you seen marriage as being more about sacrificial commitment or guilt-free sex? How has your dating life reflected this reality?
[This was an excerpt from TOP10 Marriage Tips for Smart Singes Part 3: The Two Makes & Two Lets. AVAILABLE NOW RIGHT HERE! Check out the entire series here.]
Labels: TOP10 Marriage Tips (Part 3: The Two Makes and Two Lets)
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Believe it or not, Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith are just the sort of gifts God had in mind for marriage to give us. If you’re pretty certain you’re not interested in such things, do yourself a favor and scratch marriage off your list of things to do.
Um....wat? What an incredibly fallacious statement.
Based on the fallacious argument test:
Marriage equals those gifts, and not wanting those gifts equals singleness, therefore if you don't marry you won't have those gifts.
I thought gifts of the spirit were for all Christians, not just those who are married or are looking to marry.
Based on that equivocation, every married person would automatically receive the gifts of "Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith" because they are married, regardless of whether or not they are saved. Please, please explain what Bible scriptures led you to this conclusion, and when the Lord told you that is about he works.
Believe it or not, Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith are just the sort of gifts God had in mind for marriage to give us. If you’re pretty certain you’re not interested in such things, do yourself a favor and scratch marriage off your list of things to do.
Um....wat? What an incredibly fallacious statement.
Based on the fallacious argument test:
Marriage equals those gifts, and not wanting those gifts equals singleness, therefore if you don't marry you won't have those gifts.
I thought gifts of the spirit were for all Christians, not just those who are married or are looking to marry? Based on that equivocation, every married person would automatically receive the gifts of "Christ-likeness, maturity, patience, holiness, discipline and faith" because they are married, regardless of whether or not they are saved. Please, please explain what Bible scriptures led you to this conclusion, and when the Lord told you that is how he works.
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